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All About Engagement Etiquette

Most people who are getting engaged have no idea at all what is involved in engagement etiquette. Your engagement is supposed to be a happy time--perhaps the happiest time in your life--so what should you do? How and when do you make the announcement? Do you wish to have an engagement party? All of these kinds of decisions have to be made and you want everything to go smoothly and not to ruffle anyone’s feathers.

One thing to remember especially if finances are tight is that engagement etiquette does not require that there be an engagement ring. If you are going to have one, it is a good idea to pick it out as early as possible. If the circumstances are such that the marriage question has been posed and answered without a ring, it’s fine. The ring should not be the priority.

What is a priority, however, is to tell both sets of parents as soon as possible. Usually engagement etiquette says the bride’s parents should be told first and then the groom’s, but it is also proper to announce it to both at the same time. If there is any kind of conflict between the bride and groom and either family, this can be hard to do, but it is always the best practice to tell the parents right away. The longer it goes on without telling them, the harder it will become. And, you do not want to put yourself in a situation where one set of parents knows and the other set doesn’t. If you have any children from a previous marriage, they should be told at the same time as the parents.

After the parents, it is time to let other family members and friends know the good news. It can be announced by the parents of the bride and groom or as is more commonly done these days, by the couple themselves. It is still within engagement etiquette to place an announcement in the newspaper, with a little bit of information about the bride and groom and the wedding date, if it is set and ready to be made public.

The engagement party is another take it or leave it aspect of an engagement. It can be nice and fun but is not a necessity. If you wish a traditional engagement party, it should be hosted by the parents of the bride. No one should be invited to the engagement party who is not going to be invited to the wedding. The engagement is most likely going to be a surprise. No gifts are given at the time of the engagement party.

Next comes the planning of the wedding, the setting of the date, making the list of those invited, finding a place for the reception, etc. This can often be a stressful time but every effort should be made to keep things moving along smoothly. Sometimes cooperation is going to be the key to getting something done and other times compromise may be needed. The pre-wedding weeks should be a time for the bride and groom to continue to get to know one another and to enjoy the company of one another and friends.




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